It is never one thing that wakes us up one day when we ask ourselves the question: "How did I get here?" It is a series of choices, events, turns on the path, decisions, masks we learn to wear, and finally, a straw may break the balance we have been teetering on. We finally stop to ask ourselves whose voice we are listening to and whose life we are living. We know we need to change but may not know where to start. If this is you, you are not alone but one of the many.